How to foster autonomy in young children

Allow the child to help you with simple activities like setting the table, putting away toys, or choosing their clothes. These actions reinforce their sense of belonging and personal achievements. Even if they take longer, the goal is not perfection, but for them to feel they can contribute and do it themselves.

When you give options like "do you want the blue cup or the green one?", you help the child develop judgment and confidence in their ability to decide. Avoid overwhelming them with too many alternatives. Small choices strengthen their self-esteem and promote independence in a guided and safe way.

Acknowledge each attempt by the child with positive phrases: "I like how you did it" or "you tried to do it alone". This reinforces their intrinsic motivation. When they value the process more than the result, they learn to enjoy challenges without fear of error or frustration.

Routines give them security and a sense of control. Establish fixed schedules for eating, sleeping, or playing, allowing them to take on small responsibilities within them. Over time, they will anticipate what comes next and act without needing constant reminders.

Sometimes adults, for speed or affection, intervene too much. If the child can button up, dress, or reach something, let them try. This constant practice reinforces their confidence and motor skills, and teaches them that their effort has real value.